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I hear you Andy.. but maybe you should be a parent to the best of your ability....

you just don't get it Andy.... your son needs to see your #1 priority is getting him straightened around... not the eagles

I hear you Andy.. but maybe you should be a parent to the best of your ability....

you just don't get it Andy.... your son needs to see your #1 priority is getting him straightened around... not the eagles

Fonzie | 12/21/07
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Thats a mighty harsh judgement you're making, Fonzie.

I've been watching my own son battle the same problems for 10 years. I like to think I have parented him to the best of my ability. He has fought every attempt to help get him straightened out and goes right back to his habits at the first possible chance.

I have lost jobs and my home and suffered years of pain and sorrow watching him destroy himself and blame the world. He has threatened my life and that of his sister and mother when we tried to intervene.

At This point it has become more important for me to protect our lives than his.

Sacrificing his life and livlihood would be the worst thing that Reid could do for himself and the rest of his family. At 24 his sons aren't children... they are men who must take responsibility for their own lives.

After 5 years of treatment and attempts at rehab it would seem like Reid is doing all he can for his sons... perhaps it is the sons that need to take the next step and work with those that are trying to help.

To suggest that his sons problems are Reids fault for not parenting to the best of his ability is a cruel and thoughtless accusation directed at a guy you don't even know.

I hope you never have to face what we have with your own children

In this day and age, it's harder to control the family it seems.Epoch 1 hit it on the head.No disrespect to Fonzie,but a child's upbringing does not necessarily reflect the outcome.Good parents can have bad kids, and bad parents can have good kids....you just never know what you're going to end up with.

Epoch...I agree! His kids are ADULTS. They make their own decisions. You can provide your children the tools and example to lead by but in the end they make their own decisions. These kids, I believe, had support from their parents but they made bad choices and they are paying society back for those choices.

someone sounds worried about their job status to air family laundry like this..

I echo Epoch1's sentiments to a tee.

Easy to joke and be flip about something when it is not personal.

But if you have to "walk a mile" in similar shoes it truly sucks.

And there are zero guarantees on results no matter how you raise them. All you can do is your level best and hope things turn out fine.

Epoch 1- I agree with you. You can only do so much. As adults your kids will do what they want and up bringing sometimes has nothing to do with how they turn out.. I think it is just chemicals in the brain that some people become dependant on certain things!!! Wish you luck with you son and the rest of your family...

They are adults.

Those guys are fully cooked eggs now and there's no reason for Andy to quit his job.
Everyone wants to ASSUME that Andy did not give his kids the attention they needed... In the real world people have a job and there is the possiblity these kids probably got too much.
Life is all about choices and the boys have made a ton that didn't work in their favor.
The parents aren't always at fault....WHAT A GUILT TRIP YOU GUYS WANT FOR ANDY!

Events like this goes on in every neighborhood, rich or poor, white or minority. Drugs and alcohol or any kind of addiction is hard to deal with. I think that Andy did everything he could to this point.

Epoch...I agree! His kids are ADULTS. They make their own decisions. You can provide your children the tools and example to lead by but in the end they make their own decisions. These kids, I believe, had support from their parents but they made bad choices and they are paying society back for those choices.

F inth A | 12/21/07
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The (so called) Kids are Adults of age, geez living off rich Mom & Pop.
Andy needs to be a responsible parent, kick their butts out after 18!
Get a life, still I know people with grown children STILL at home.

His sons are adults. They made their own choices as adults and must pay the price as adults. You can't fault Coach Reid and his wife for this one.

these are adults not teenagers if they were living on their own would this be an issue

Blame the single parent Loki - that's just great. The single parent who is busting their behind trying to do good by their child. It amazes me that people still have this attitude in today's day and age. This argument may have worked in the 60's when everyone stayed married even though they hated each other, but it just doesn't work today. A single parent is better than NO parents and a foster system... But some people just can't see past the "negative" of one parent who loves their child to pieces even though they are just one parent.

I cannot tell you how many households I know with two parents and a completely dysfunctional atmosphere. It goes both ways. Being there doesn???t equate to being THERE if you get what I mean.

Yes - I'm bitter, but I was a single parent for many years until I recently married and I really am proud of raising a beautiful child who knows right from wrong, has good values and loves life. It is possible.

Let me clarify that a loving foster home isn't bad. Just got fired up on the single parent comment.

Loki, that is dumb thing to say. Me and three other siblings are from broken homes and we did just fine. You learn to appreciate certain things more. My mom was the best mom on the planet and my pops gets better at being a good dad everyday. He was a late bloomer with that but he has put in a ton of effort and now is one of my best friends.

Here, kitty, kitty......